Divorced

1. Sad but cool fact about my husband; he's in that odd upper echelon of intelligence and will not allow me to people share what his IQ is.

2. Just as Jennifer Connnelley's character in A Beautiful Mind struggled for years over what to do with her highly evolved yet barely functioning spouse, these have been my struggles for years as well. I have watched my husband not make the "popular, eating lunch together crowd" where he worked as minimum wage cashier. I have also seen him have profound conversations with janitors, key copiers and waitresss...usually when he was late to another meeting.

3. Besides working in jobs that were beneath him, he was too scared for apply to jobs in his pay range. Afte he quit cashiering, he simply surfed the internet for the next year and a half.

4. Most of my stress has come from either denying the situation or thinking that he would change. I wanted to be a stay at home mom, but over time I grudgingly returned to full time employment so that we would have health insurance.

5. Now he's had a 15 month long taste of being the stay at home parent and doesn' t like it. He was ranting and raving about how long he spent cleaning today

BUT THEN

He told me that HE felt forced into being a stay at home dad because he thought that the housee would never get cleaned properly without his doing it. I gave him many opportunies to soften his message, but it stands. Basically, even though I dream of being an at home parent and his profession is higher paying than mine, he says he needs to stay at home or the house will always be a pig sty.

I can't express how mad and heartbroken I am. I am actuallly considering divorce. That's how much of his view means to me.